Skip to main content

Companionable grace

The wise choose their companions very carefully. It isn't because they are snobbish or unfriendly, but because they know how important it is to travel with the right companions through this life. I often told my children their choice of companions in this life determined their course and whenever they chose to ignore this advice they usually came home with wounded emotions, disappointed  dreams, or the impression they had been used in the relationship. As God knew before he made each of us, there would be those who were going to steer us wrong and those who would help us to grow in his grace, he also cared enough to give us the internal wisdom to choose the best relationships which had the potential to help us grow if we would listen to his advice on who they might be in our life.

Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces. Disaster entraps sinners, but God-loyal people get a good life.  (Proverbs 13:20-21 MSG)

A companion employs the gift of helpfulness in our lives. In this sense, they are a perfect match for something we need in life. In the most perfect sense, they are "mates". In other words, as one we stand incomplete, but together we complete what is missing when standing alone. Walk with only one shoe on and you are imbalanced. Wear both and you are not only balanced, but you have a freedom of movement you did not have otherwise.

One of the things a good friendship helps us with is the right form of judgment in our lives. It isn't that they judge us, but they actually help us with the power of right or good judgment that they exhibit in life. Their input into our lives isn't meant to criticize our choices, but to give us perspective we don't see on our own. There is a genuineness in this sharing because there is no reservation to share truth. In essence, truthfulness and good judgment is the hallmark of our exchanges in this thing we come to count on from each other.

It may be the combined outcome of these traits which draws us to these relationships,simply because they help us each feel respected and valued for what it is we contribute in this exchange we call companionship or friendship. God wanted us to be free to share this depth of commitment to each other as we learn to walk this close to him. The right companions will draw us out of ourselves, helping us to focus on him more and more, then give away the grace we gain in this relationship. A hallmark of the best relationships is grace...beginning with the grace we receive in Christ, then the grace we gain from each other in companionable growth together. Let us grow in grace and then learn to use that grace to draw others into companionable relationships with those who will help them to grow in grace, as well. Just sharin!


Popular posts from this blog

What did obedience cost Mary and Joseph?

As we have looked at the birth of Christ, we have considered the fact he was born of a virgin, with an earthly father so willing to honor God with his life that he married a woman who was already pregnant.  In that day and time, a very taboo thing.  We also saw how the mother of Christ was chosen by God and given the dramatic news that she would carry the Son of God.  Imagine her awe, but also see her tremendous amount of fear as she would have received this announcement, knowing all she knew about the time in which she lived about how a woman out of wedlock showing up pregnant would be treated.  We also explored the lowly birth of Jesus in a stable of sorts, surrounded by animals, visited by shepherds, and then honored by magi from afar.  The announcement of his birth was by angels - start to finish.  Mary heard from an angel (a messenger from God), while Joseph was set at ease by a messenger from God on another occasion - assuring him the thing he was about to do in marrying Mary wa

The bobby pin in the electrical socket does what???

Avoidance is the act of staying away from something - usually because it brings some kind of negative effect into your life.  For example, if you are a diabetic, you avoid the intake of high quantities of simple sugars because they bring the negative effect of elevating your blood glucose to unhealthy levels.  If you were like me as a kid, listening to mom and dad tell you the electrical outlets were actually dangerous didn't matter all that much until you put the bobby pin into the tiny slots and felt that jolt of electric current course through your body! At that point, you recognized electricity as having a "dangerous" side to it - it produces negative effects when embraced in a wrong manner.  Both of these are good things, when used correctly.  Sugar has a benefit of producing energy within our cells, but an over-abundance of it will have a bad effect.  Electricity lights our path and keeps us warm on cold nights, but not contained as it should be and it can produce

Scrubbed Up and Ready to Go!

Have you ever considered just how 'clean' your hands really are? In nursing school, I remember this exercise we did where we rubbed hand lotion on our hands, then were told to go scrub them to practice a good handwashing technique. Most of us were going the extra mile by scrubbing back and front, in between the fingers and then even up above the wrist area. Surely our hands were clean, right? We came back to the room for the 'inspection' of our handwashing jobs only to find our instructor had turned the lights off, had a black light set up, and inspected our hands under that glowing beast! Guess what else 'glowed'? Our hands! The lotion was 'laced' with this 'dust' that illuminates under the black light, allowing each of us to see the specific areas around cuticles, under nails, and even here and there on our hands that got totally missed by our good 'handwashing' technique! What we thought was clean really wasn't clean at all. Clean