My pastor calls it singing the song, "Me, me, me". We focus on us because "me" becomes more important than "we" or "us". Whenever "me" is more important than anything or anyone else, our focus is distracted and our "driving" in this life is capable of creating an impact we won't really want to make.
My son drives a pick-up truck and that suits his size and build quite well. He came over a few weeks back riding a new motorcycle he had purchased for himself. Although the motorcycle was large enough to support his frame and he had the strength to support it as he rode it, there was something I noticed. He looked vulnerable on that bike! He had on his helmet, wore appropriate footwear, and was totally focused on navigating that bike safely out into traffic, but there was a sense of being "exposed" I could definitely observe in the way he navigated the roadway on the bike. Maybe it was him paying closer attention to all the aspects of riding that bike - keeping his balance, learning to lean into the turns, and being constantly watchful of the "other guy" on the road.
It spoke to me of times in life when we are a little more vulnerable than at others. As long as he is in the truck, he is confident, assured, and even carefree in his navigation from point A to point B. On the bike, he was attentive in a way he just isn't behind the wheel of the truck. He recognized his "exposure" was much greater in a way it isn't when he is in the truck. Not only was he paying attention to his maneuvers, but now he had to pay closer attention to the other person's, the unknown stuff emerging on the roadway, and even the slightest pebble just catching his tire in the right way which could impact his balance. You see, he had to pay more attention to avoiding collision when he was more exposed. This is also true in life - we often pay closer attention to our actions and those of others when we feel a little too exposed!
Wouldn't it make more sense to be as attentive when we are "less exposed" as when we are totally "exposed"? Vulnerability isn't a matter of what we hide behind, but in what is headed right toward us in our pathway! The truck is no match for a semi - the motorcycle is no match for the pothole - the distractions of life are there all around us. We have to learn not to just pay attention to "us", but to those who might be a little distracted in their own journey, as well. In truth, we are all a little bit "exposed" to the "impact" of another's life, as are they to the impact of ours. May our impacts always be those which influence, not collide! Just sayin!