When silence answers it all
Although I don't know the author of this saying, it remains quite true: "Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something." Proverbs 29:11 reminds us, "A fool lets it all hang out; a sage quietly mulls it over." Proverbs 10:14 provides a little more thought on the matter: "The wise accumulate knowledge - a true treasure; know-it-alls talk too much - a sheer waste." Do we talk because we have something to say - or do we talk because we need to say something? It is a telling question, isn't it? Talk too much and you just fuel fires; speak wisdom in the midst of chaos and you can re-establish order and set the course once again in the right direction.
Proverbs 10:19 goes a little further by telling us, "The more talk, the less truth; the wise measure their words." How measured are you words? I have had to learn that lesson the hard way - by saying way too much when I should have been more 'measured' in what it was I said. Ever joined me in that muddle? Too many words can actually fuel the fires of discontent, anger, discontent, and mistrust. I have had to ask God to put a 'muzzle' of sorts over my mouth at times - because what would have come out if I gave full rein to my thoughts via my words, the things said would only have inflamed the situation at hand. It was a hard thing to learn we may think things that should never find their way into words.
I learned what I may not have been able to speak out at that moment because wisdom dictated I remain silent on the matter didn't mean I didn't have a means to bring those thoughts to the surface. I still had the opportunity to talk about those things with God directly. I found times of quiet reflection with him, just speaking my heart in the truthful expression of what was capture in my thoughts. These times brought clarity and gave me peace in the matter. If you have ever refrained from speaking everything you thought when with another and then spoken to God about it a short time later, you know what I mean. It is like he shows you how good it was to resist the urge to 'spill it all' in that moment when you wanted to say it, but how healing it was to finally get it out with him and hear what he had to say about the matter.
Wisdom dictates silence sometimes. Learning when to respond and when silence is the best response is a difficult lesson indeed. Did you ever stop to consider that silence can be the most powerful response one can give at times? When my kids said something that was absolutely selfish or just outright mean, I sometimes just looked at them for a bit and didn't say anything. It wasn't because I was 'stunned' into silence - it was because God knew if I said what I thought at that moment, I would have brought more damage than health into the relationship. So, if you have learned the 'art' of listening to the still small voice warning you to just not say anything, maybe it is time to begin to listen a little closer. It could be the greatest thing you 'never said' that brings the greatest blessing into the moment. Just sayin!